• queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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    4 months ago

    It’s not just about using the bathroom I identify with.

    I outright can not pass as male anymore. If I try to use the men’s restroom it’s going to cause a commotion and probably lead to me being assaulted, and I really don’t want to have to deal with going to court because I killed someone in self defense.

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      4 months ago

      Anecdotally, if I saw a woman in the men’s room, I’d probably mind my own business like I always do.

      It’s like the gym, I’m trying to do my thing and gtfo, no eye contact, no nothing.

      I know I’m just one voice but I think it’s way stupid how interested we are in other people using the restroom.

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        4 months ago

        It’s on purpose. Sounds like you, and certainly I, don’t care. But it’s being drummed up for a reason. Bad actors, looking to do bad things, by placing a target on people’s backs. The worst kind of politics.

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        4 months ago

        IMO we should abolish gendered restrooms. It’s unfair that women consistently have to wait longer in line. And before anyone makes some weak ass “think of the children” argument… I have two, actually watch them, and have gone into a million ladies rooms for changing tables.

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          4 months ago

          also, this is why ciswomen will sometimes use the men’s restroom. long line, desperation, potentially exacerbated by the fact that birthing children sometimes makes it harder to wait afterward.

          side note - i almost never clock anyone as trans. i figure most people don’t, or don’t correctly (i have heard of people challenging butch ciswomen). how would most folks even know?! just mind your business and do your business, and let others do the same.

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        4 months ago

        That’s a good point too. This basically means transgender people can’t go to gyms. A bathroom is one thing but changing rooms can make people a bit uneasy even when everyone is the same gender. This is going to lead to public disturbances and trans people getting arrested (definitely what the GOP wishes they could put into law).

      • queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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        4 months ago

        From personal experience I only started using the women’s restroom after men started yelling at me for using theirs. 🤷‍♀️

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        4 months ago

        I didn’t mind my own business when a woman accidentally walked into the bathroom I was using. That was mostly because I was using the urinal, and it was more visible than I’d like from the bathroom door. Not her fault, just badly designed.

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      4 months ago

      Yeah, as an Ohio trans woman, I’m post op and my choices in presentation are to look like a non passing trans woman, a woman without qualifiers (those two are just random which I’m perceived as), or I can try to look male and look like a bad drag king or like a non passing trans man.

      Maybe people just need to get used to people like us existing in public