Have you been diagnosed? If you had, I’d have to think you would already know the above.
Yes, see below.
that doesn’t mean they aren’t on the spectrum anymore.
I’m not arguing that they’re not autistic, I don’t understand where you’re getting. Just that they’ve learned to “mask” and they think it’s normal, and they’ve gotten to the point that it’s not something they’re consciously doing. IE I had a speech impediment, I had a counselor work with me to fix it, I spent months consciously thinking about pronouncing it correct, and eventually it became the “normal” thing to do and required no thought. Eye contact has never been something I’m good at, but it no longer burns my soul to look into someones eyes. And if I need to be a good boy it takes almost 0 thought to maintain eye contact. It’s now the “normal” thing to do.
I miss that in my old car. When I’m drivng around in the city and don’t rally need much headlighting I’d angle them all the way down. When I’m in a dark area where there’s enough people that I can’t use my brights I’d just angle them up. My current car has stupid self leveling headlights so I don’t get any of that fun :(